I am 5″3/4, can be wildly unorganised, if I don’t leave my house (or have people round) odds are I probably won’t shower, and I’m far from average on a loooot of things (height, weight and sporting ability to name a few). I’m never going to be perfect, or even close to perfect, and that’s okay.
I’ve written posts on insecurity and body confidence and detailed my issues with body image on this blog, but I think a lot of these issues stemmed from the fact that I grew up being a massive perfectionist.
I feel like the majority of us are brought up, whether it be through school or family (mostly school in my case) believing in this idea of perfection; aiming for the perfect 100% in tests and perfect attendance (I never even came close), and handwriting and presentation. Once the idea of perfection is in your head, it ends up being something you believe exists in everyday life… I wanted the perfect body, the perfect personality, the perfect clothes, the perfect hair and it slowly drove me to some very dangerous places mentally.
There’s nothing wrong with trying to be the best you can be, but that’s the thing, it’s got to be the best YOU, personally, can be. Every single one of us is different and we’re all given different strengths and weaknesses. Some are lucky to find these very early on in life, and some find it way into their later years, it’s all very relative. I’m never going to be the skinniest or the prettiest, or the image I see in my head as “perfect”, but that’s okay. What I am going to be is braver, and more determined and more in tune with myself, and what I need in life.
It’s so easy to feel like you’re underachieving and not good at anything, but when that happens we need to focus on the positives. Find the things that you are good at, focus on what you’re doing well. Set yourself vague, achievable but still challenging goals like “focusing on yourself” or “conquering a fear”.
I’m not perfect. I’m never going to be. None of us are, and that’s okay. However, we can work hard to be the best versions of ourselves, and if you ask me that’s way more important.
Hope you enjoyed my mindless rambling… I’m quite liking writing posts like this at the moment. Feel free to engage in discussion in the comments!
Lots of love,