I have never found school easy. I worked hard and I got good grades, but I have never found school easy.
After GCSE’s, when I came out with good(ish, I mean they weren’t insanely impressive but they were towards the higher end) grades, I was pegged as a “smart person”… a common misconception when it comes to me. Because of this, when I was stressing before a test or asking for extra help, or saying I couldn’t go out because I needed to study I usually got met with the same response: “Yeah, but you’ll be fine because you’re smart“.
What I’ve tried to explain (Granted, pretty poorly because I’m not as good communicating in person) is that getting good grades is not always directly linked to being “smart”. I think I’ve always had an interest in learning, but I’ve always been pretty slow at it. I don’t have a learning disability or anything, but it takes me quite a while to process things and actually understand what’s going on. What people don’t seem to realise is that when I sit in a classroom, or more recently a lecture theatre, I rarely understand what’s going on the first time round. I have to go home, look back on my notes, google things and research more in order to actually understand what I’m being taught.
I feel like the phrase “but you’re smart” comes with the underlying connotations of “naturally gifted”, “doesn’t have to try as hard”, and “definitely going to do well” but none of that is the case with me. I have to work ridiculously hard to get the grades that I get… and it’s not like I need people to give me a well done for all the extra work I put in, I do that because I have to. It can just be a little disheartening when the results of your hard work get brushed off and dis-valued because everyone expected it “because you’re smart”.
I think what I’m trying to say is that you never know the background work that goes into something, yet we’re so quick to dismiss someone’s effort because we see them as “naturally gifted”. The majority of people have put a massive amount of effort behind everything that they do, only to have people dismiss it or see it as something frivolous or something that comes naturally. People don’t do it on purpose but we all need to be a little more careful with how we talk to people and what we say, me included. Call me smart, tell me you are proud of how I did, but don’t make your compliment sound like an excuse for why I did as well as I did.
This was slightly ranty… Sorry haha just something that goes through my mind a lot,
Lots of love,